How to overcome social fear?
Animal parasites are outward-facing, and social fear seems to be a substitute for some people.
Feeling imperfect, ridiculous, and funny in the eyes of others, and even pointing out the shame, despicableness, and morbidity in others ‘eyes, and treating others’ normal behaviors, voices, and expressions as disgust and contempt.
The true meaning of social life disappeared, and those who stood opposite him were unaware, but objectively became a mirror of the ego.
It is an almost unsolvable psychological obstacle for a person to fall into tension with himself, and this conflict will provoke a strong neurotic conflict, accompanied by obvious tension, fear, blushing, sweating, and agitation (referring to extreme restlessness, nervousness)Status) and even escape.
How can you escape what you don’t like?
The internal pain, shame, self-denial, and even self-hate caused by social fear are startled by senior psychologists!
Sometimes, it seems that only the desire for death can calm down the anger of oneself.
Culture, superego, or are you too good?
When I enter people who face social fear, my heart is filled with awe of culture.
These people have a transcendent, perfect, and authoritative self in their hearts. It controls themselves with harsh “must”. There is a little imperfection in society, profound self-denial, derogation and blame.
Who produces such a powerful superego?
Nature is a culture that animals do not possess.
Culture stimulates people’s excessive pursuit of self-esteem, idealized self, and honor. As a result, it leads to a reverse, which suppresses and negates the neuroticism that oneself produces.
The shame of Eastern culture may be one of the important reasons for self-intervention, so there are many yellow people in social fear, and Japanese psychologists simply call it phobia.
However, social fear has a deeper meaning. Generally smart, sensitive, and some neurotic people are prone to fall into such conflicts, and such people happen to be creative people.
Just as the colony needs only one queen bee, the natural elimination causes the bees that may become the queen bee to be eliminated early.
Neurotic conflict is a shortcut to self-destruction. Excellent people become mediocre and lose competitiveness through such torture.
So how you interpret social fear is important.
If you think your social fear is a disease, you get recovery, morbid behavior, and failure; if you read that I don’t love social, then you get time, knowledge, and inner peace.
Socialization takes oxidants. Philosophy, politics, literature, and scientifically accomplished people are mostly people who don’t like society.
Allowing yourself for imperfect treatments for social fear is often not directed at the fear itself, but often at how to accept it and to avoid social behaviors.
I received such a case in an outpatient clinic when I was an intern in psychiatry at Medical University.
Case: There is a 22-year-old girl whose problem is not dare to fall in love. Whenever someone wants to introduce her friends, she will faint in panic.
Dr. Xi Xi has diagnosed her as a social fear, because social fear began to happen only to a specific person, and then the fear generalized to many people.
At the time of psychotherapy, the girl was very fluent when she talked to the doctor about her problems. Later, the doctor pointed at me and said to the girl, “Okay, now you think of him as your boyfriend.”
“As soon as the voice fell, she suddenly became very nervous, her face turned red, her eyes buried, her voice trembled, and she seemed to die.
The girl’s mother introduced her to an object, and next week she asked her to go to a meeting. She was afraid she would get sick, so she came to seek treatment.
The doctor said to the girl, “Don’t rush to talk to him about friends first. Go and meet him. Ask him for his name and age. Come back and tell me.
“At the follow-up visit, my mother said she was doing well this time and talked to the boy for more than half an hour.
The girl thought of the scene and said, “Because all I want to do is ask his name, not so much.
“Actually the doctor is doing progressive desensitization.
The doctor changed the meaning of the girl going to see her boyfriend. She used to see her boyfriend to get married, but now she asks the doctor what she wants to know.
By rebuilding the meaning of the blind date, the doctor shifted her internal concerns and eased her social fears.
Admitting yourself frankly, acknowledging that you are not social, allowing yourself to be imperfect, and even willing to be a little different, annoying, is a cure for social fear.